We all know the reality of how much power the media has over our children. As a mom of two, I’m always concerned about what my kids are picking up from movies, televisions shows and magazines. I care about who they look up to, who they think is cool, and try to always (almost impossible) present them with positive role models. But what if your child grew up adoring Hannah Montana? They idolize Miley Cyrus and that admiration continues today? Thank GOD my kids are too young to know about “Hannah Montana gone bad”. How do you explain Miley to your kids? Why she is at the VMA’s doing pornographic moves with a stuffed bear? Or why she’s on stage smoking a joint? Or that she sings about how great the new club drug “Molly” is? This is a worst nightmare scenario for a parent of a young child who grew up with Disney!
This has inspired my list of the best and worst role models in the media.
Let’s start with the BEST ROLE MODELS:
Taylor Swift- I would choose one thousand times over for my kids to listen to and admire Taylor Swift over Miley Cyrus. Sure she sings about heartbreak and dating, but she is as sweet as a Georgia peach! She is fun, funny, can laugh at herself, is real and takes her job as a role model seriously! Taylor Swift, you are welcome at my house anytime! Maybe we could write a song together??
Demi Lovato- Ask me a year ago and Demi would not be on this list. But this girl deserves some street cred. Yes she went to rehab, yes she had issues we hope our children never face. But it’s all about how you choose to deal with your struggles. Demi took her life in her own hands and faced her demons. Today she chooses to be honest about her struggles, with the hopes of helping other young women. I admire Demi for facing her demons head on, being honest about her struggles and sharing her life with others. Bravo, Demi!
Pink- You don’t have to be totally straight-laced to be a good role model. Confidence should be of higher value than beauty. Girls who are confident are less likely to be pressured by their peers. Girls should learn to embrace their individual, unique selves- even if it is outside the norm. Pink is beautiful , talented and most of all confident. She’s not afraid to be herself. Traits I would hope my daughter will admire.
Now let’s talk about the WORST ROLE MODELS:
Hmm, bet you can’t guess who’s number one on this list? Yep, you got it-Miley Cyrus. Sure, she’s only 21. Sure she’s “experimenting” and “finding herself.” I did that, too, at that age. What’s different is that Miley has a responsibility to her fans. As a mega Disney star with so many young admirers, she needs to take her job as role model more seriously. Smoke your pot—at home! Don’t flaunt its greatness to young kids. Cover yourself up! No one wants to see your pre-adolescent body half-naked..much less watch you grope yourself with your foam finger! Miley, I’m very disappointed—keep your clothes on and your lyrics clean! Kids are listening and learning from you!
Rhianna- I’ll be the first to admit I love Rhianna’s music. But have you listened ( I mean really listened) to the lyrics of her songs? She talks about drugs, abusive relationships and violence—in a way that glamorizes it! “I love the way you lie”? Have you seen the video for “Hopeless place?” This is a terrible role model for our children. Not only is she supporting violence and drug abuse, but her actions of taking back Chris Brown after he beat the shit out of her says more than any music lyrics can say. What message does that give to our young daughters? Violence, glamourized. Not cool, Rhianna!
Lamar Odom- It’s really too bad that Lamar is so highly represented in the media. Here is an all-star Basketball player..who’s taken a terrible turn for the worst. What’s even worse? The NBA doesn’t seem to care! Apparently, despite his issues with drugs (including Crack!), the LA Clippers still want him to play. So what does this tell our children? It’s ok to use drugs, you won’t lose any opportunities. And it might even make you famous! WTF? Clean up your act Lamar! I don’t want my son to admire your behavior!
Kardashians- OK, I’m a little torn on which list to put the Kardashians on. My first instinct is the WORST list. What morals are we teaching our children? Beauty and money equal success and popularity? No Kardashian has made the cover of US Weekly for being super smart..or making great decisions! I don’t want my daughter to grow up admiring Kim Kardashian! But what I will say, and have said in a previous post, the Kardashians do present a tight family unit that is not all bad. They have Sunday dinners together, the siblings support each other and the love from their mother, Kris, is clear. Family is important, and families should stick together and support each other through all the ups and downs of life. And this is what the Kardashians do well. What they don’t do well is presenting our girl’s with encouragement to be SMART! Looks don’t get you places in life, education does. For anyone thinking of dropping out of high school to be a model like Kylie Jenner, please reconsider. Very few make it, and you can have a much better chance of a great life if you get an education and continue to develop your skills.
Who did I miss??